“But I know my real fear about your growing older is not only about the millions of things that could happen. It is about how afraid I am of what I imagine as the inevitable separation that will come between… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“we all just figure this out as we go along. There’s no textbook, there’s no rules, there’s no right way to love her. You… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“In some ways love is easier as my daughter gets older. For one thing I have more feedback, more proof that my love is… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“But I know my real fear about your growing older is not only about the millions of things that could happen. It is about… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“motherhood is not a job at all. It is a full-time, all-consuming, life-subsuming career with no pay, no stock options, no social security, and… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“Consider one study that estimates a mom simultaneously and often single-handedly performs as many as seventeen occupations in the course of raising a child,… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“So let’s imagine for now that our love for our children and our thankfulness for their existence is a given. Let’s imagine that no… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“for the most part, my peers, like me, have embarked on the eternal compromise that is dealing with a toddler. We are no longer… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“Pre-baby I used to fantasize about winning the lottery, or becoming deliriously famous and rich. Now I fantasize about sleep. I fantasize about slumber… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“I will feel the pang of separation when she is two, when she is twelve, when she is twenty. My daughter will tackle other… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“It’s harder than you think to admit your even occasional dissatisfaction as a mother without feeling instant guilt, an immediate sensation of shame for… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“Our staunch ideals of how we will raise our children get significantly reshaped by those very kids once they’re here in the world running… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
“I swear over everything from being woken up in the middle of the night to realizing I’ve left the wet clothes in the washer… — Andrea J. Buchanan Copy Share Image
