“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise," writes psychologist Erich Fromm. "If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Forsaking all others means going deep with one person -- exhaustingly deep.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“So what's the secret to staying together?" I asked her. "Be nice?" she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“The romantic fairy tales we grew up with -- where marriage is the happy ending rather than the opening scene -- are not useful… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“The boring parts don't last forever. In retrospect, they aren't even boring.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“By staying married, we give something to ourselves and to others: hope. Hope that in steadfastly loving someone, we ourselves, for all our faults,… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“There are a lot of really broken people. Unfortunately, especially for women, your sense of self and your viability is so under assault from… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise," writes psychologist… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“...even good marriages sometimes involve flinging a remote control at the wall.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“As married people, we dwell on a spectrum between happy and unhappy, in love and out of love, and we move back and forth… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“People who don't marry miss both the pelting hardships of marriage and its warm rewards.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Wherever you go, there you are. You would just have different problems. Are the problems you have now so bad that any other problems… — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
“Failure is part of being human, and it is definitely part of being married.” — Ada Calhoun Copy Share Image
