“In the way we regard our children, our spouses, neighbors, colleagues, and strangers, we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects.They either count like we do or they don't. In the former case we regard… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“So if we are going to find lasting solutions to difficult conflicts or external wars we find ourselves in, we first need to find… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“Most wars between individuals are of the 'cold' rather than the 'hot' variety---lingering resentment, for example, grudges long held, resources clutched rather than shared,… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“As painful as it is to receive contempt from another, it is more debilitating by far to be filled with contempt for another.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“...no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right. Solution is possible only when at least one party… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“But like many who are lonely, I was more preoccupied with others than were those who lived to socialize...Everyone I hated was always with… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“always remember that it is progress, not perfection, you should be looking for.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“My disability was my justification! It was my excuse for failing to engage with the world.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“...when I betray myself, others' faults become immediately inflated in my heart and mind. I begin to 'horribilize' others. That is, I begin to… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“Because if you are the mess, you can clean it. Improvement doesn't depend on others.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“... if I'm sure I'm right, there is little hope of seeing where I am failing. So I keep trying the same old things-” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“If we have deep problems, it's because we are failing at the deepest part of the solution. And when we fail at this deepest… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
