Every child has a legitimate narcissistic need to be noticed, understood, taken seriously, and respected by his mother. In the first weeks… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Child abuse damages a person for life and that damage is in no way diminished by the ignorance of the perpetrator. It… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The achievement of freedom is hardly possible without the felt mourning. This ability to mourn, i.e, to give up the illusion of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is possible to resolve childhood repression safely and without confusion - something that has always been disputed by the most respected… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Child abuse is still sanctioned — indeed, held in high regard — in our society as long as it is defined as… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Anyone who has ever been a mother or father and is at all honest knows from experience how difficult it can be… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Today's children and grandchildren are entitled to be aware, they are entitled to believe what they saw and felt as children. They… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Can forgivenes for the crimes done to a child be not just ineffective but actively harmful? It certainly can because the body… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“As a rule, beaten, tormented, and humiliated children who have never received support from a helping witness later develop a high degree… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents'… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is unlikely that someone could proclaim "truths" that are counter to physical laws for very long (for example, that it is… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“The fact is that an unscrupulous tyrant mobilizes the suppressed fears and anxieties of those who were beaten as children but have… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The knowledge that you were beaten and that this, as your parents tell you, was for your own good may well be… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Children who are respected learn respect. Children who are cared for learn to care for those weaker than themselves. Children who are… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The attempt to be an ideal parent, that is, to behave correctly toward the child, to raise her correctly, not to give… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Today I should not be identified with any kind of regressive therapy. Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Society chooses to disregard the mistreatment of children, judging it to be altogether normal because it is so commonplace. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Probably every child who has suffered abuse must assume an attitude like this in order to survive. These children reinterpret their perceptions… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
