“Why Is It So Important to Remember? When you were abused, those around you acted as if it weren’t happening. Since no one else acknowledged the abuse, you sometimes felt that it wasn’t real. Because of this you felt confused.… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“Most survivors tend to be the care-giver rather than the care-receiver. We tend to be good at being spouses and parents, anticipating our loved ones needs, going the second mile when it came to self sacrifice. But seldom can we… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
It is far more important to know myself and take care of myself than it is to look good to others. — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“There came a time in my life when I had to admit to myself that I have some very clear narcissistic tendencies. Ironically, it occurred during the writing of my book The Emotionally Abused Woman. As I listed the symptoms of narcissism, I was amazed to find that I recognized myself in the description of the disorder. It should have… — Beverly Engel Copy Share
“If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
Survivors have a difficult time expressing their feelings. They are more accustomed to minimizing their pain and hiding how they really feel, both from… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“As you recover, you will feel more conscious of your surroundings. Freed from the ‘fog’ of your pain, fear, and confusion, you will awaken… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“You may be operating from the belief that you must do everything yourself because no one will ever be there for you. Or you… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
You have the right to your own ideas and opinions, to make your own decisions, and to have things go your way at times.… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“Many neglected and abused children grow up to be adults who are afraid to take risks of striking out on their own. Many will… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“This is particularly true of those who "love too much" and those who tend to lose themselves in their relationships. Sometimes our love becomes distorted by our feelings of insecurity and our fear of abandonment. This is the often the case with those who become overly controlling and overly smothering of their partner. Others become emotionally abusive because of their… — Beverly Engel Copy Share
Critical words to a child are as painful and damaging as being physically hit. They are verbal slaps in the face. Usually, critical words are accompanied by threats, name-calling, and yelling. This verbal abuse can be especially damaging. Insulting names echo in a child's mind over and over again until he comes to believe he is indeed stupid, selfish, lazy,… — Beverly Engel Copy Share
“emotional abuse is much more than verbal abuse. Emotional abuse can be defined as any nonphysical behavior that is designed to control, intimidate, subjugate,… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
Positive and powerful: Sometimes people won't like me, and it's okay. Positive and powerful: I like me, and that's all that matters. Positive and… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
