“(a quote from a survivor) Information was key. Once you begin waking up to what has been happening around you the whole… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share Image
“Yes, indeed, I am the stuff, the prize property, the recaptured trophy he will put up on the mantelpiece, in a rage… — Kaimana Wolff Copy Share Image
“Many neglected and abused children grow up to be adults who are afraid to take risks of striking out on their own.… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
But whether you stay or go, the critical decision you can make is to stop letting your partner distort the lens of… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Sometimes I cry, wondering how it was possible that I could have been so goddamn weak, so f*cking spineless. Without you around,… — Heather Demetrios Copy Share Image
Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Playing the victim role: Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behavior in order to… — George K. Simon Jr Copy Share Image
“You can have a pet zebra and put that zebra into a small cage every day and tell the zebra that you… — C. JoyBell C Copy Share Image
“Although the typical abusive man works to maintain a positive public image, it is true that some women have abusive partners who… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“I have sometimes said to a client: “If you are so in touch with your feelings from your abusive childhood, then you… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers. They have… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“In a healthy relationship, vulnerability is wonderful. It leads to increased intimacy and closer bonds. When a healthy person realizes that he… — Christina Enevoldsen Copy Share Image
“Abusive relationships exist because they provide enough rations of warmth, laughter, and affection to clutch onto like a security blanket in the… — Maggie Young Copy Share Image
“Women may come to the recovery process to "fix" their relationships, but what they end up learning is how to rescue and… — Carol A Lambert Copy Share Image
“The confusion of love with abuse is what allows abusers who kill their partners to make the absurd claim that they were… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“IN ONE IMPORTANT WAY, an abusive man works like a magician: His tricks largely rely on getting you to look off in… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“To make matters worse, everyone she talks to has a different opinion about the nature of his problem and what she should… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“There came a time in my life when I had to admit to myself that I have some very clear narcissistic tendencies.… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“Sometimes, no matter how hard we try for someone and hope that they will get better in time – they never do.… — Sijdah Hussain Copy Share Image
“Outside of my professional life, I have known many couples over the years who had passion and electricity between them and who… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
