“Because the victims are “only children,” their distress is trivialized. But in twenty years’ time these children will be adult who will feel compelled to pay it all back to their own children. They may consciously fight with vigor against… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“I call the violent kind of "upbringing" abuse, not only because children are thus refused the right to dignity and respect as human beings but also because such an approach to parenting establishes a kind of totalitarian regime in which… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“It is highly significant, perplexing to say the least, that we have been bound for thousands of years to a commandment that hardly anyone… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“Superficially, the Fourth Commandment can be regarded as a kind of life insurance for old people, which was perhaps necessary in biblical times but… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“The body cannot understand this kind of morality; it will have no truck with the Fourth Commandment, and it cannot be fooled by words… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“True autonomy is preceded by the experience of being dependent. True liberation can be found only beyond the deep ambivalence of infantile dependence.” — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“The more gifted of these individuals became writers or artists. Even though they were able to point to the truth in the literature and… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“My belief is that the time has come for us to take the injuries of childhood and their consequences seriously. We must free ourselves… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“Because the victims are “only children,” their distress is trivialized. But in twenty years’ time these children will be adult who will feel compelled… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“The patient is surprised by feelings she would rather not have recognized, but now it is too late: Awareness of her own impulses has… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“The realization that I cannot manipulate my feelings, that I can delude neither myself nor others, brought me immense relief and liberation. Only then… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“An emotional outbreak may follow, accompanied by strong, legitimate reproaches, and only after this outbreak will a new link with repressed experience become clear… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“Although the outward picture of depression is quite the opposite of that of grandiosity and has a quality that expresses the tragedy of the… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“An adult can be fully aware of his feelings only if he had caring parents or caregivers. People who were abused and neglected in… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“I call the violent kind of "upbringing" abuse, not only because children are thus refused the right to dignity and respect as human beings… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“These people have all developed the art of not experiencing feelings, for a child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
“In such cases the natural needs appropriate to the child’s age cannot be integrated, so they are repressed or split off. This person will… — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child Copy Share Image
