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I've cared for heaps of people, but not to marry them' she…

“I've cared for heaps of people, but not to marry them' she said. 'I suppose I'm too fastidious. all my life I've wanted somebody I could look up to, somebody great and big and splendid. Most men are so small.' 'What d'you mean by splendid?' Hewet asked. 'People are-nothing more.” quote by Virginia Woolf
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““I've cared for heaps of people, but not to marry them' she said. 'I suppose I'm too fastidious. all my life I've wanted somebody I could look up to, somebody great and big and splendid. Most men are so small.' 'What d'you mean by splendid?' Hewet asked. 'People are-nothing more.””

Virginia Woolf

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

A woman reflects on her high standards for partners, feeling most men are insufficient, and questions what true greatness means.

In simple terms: She seeks a partner who is extraordinary, but doubts such people exist.

Key Takeaway

Reevaluate expectations of perfection in relationships.

Themes

relationships expectations self‑reflection gender roles

Mood

introspective critical

Type

literary personal

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • friendships
  • career mentorship
  • self‑growth

Key Concepts

psychology literature idealism

Questions to Reflect On

  • What defines “splendid” in a partner?
  • Are your standards realistic or self‑imposed?
A Different Perspective

Idealizing perfection can lead to chronic dissatisfaction.

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