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“When Professor Little introduced the concept of self-monitoring to his personality psychology classes, some students got very worked up about whether it was ethical to be a high self-monitor. A few “mixed” couples—HSMs and LSMs in love—even broke up over it, he was told. To high self-monitors, low…” quote by Susan Cain
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““When Professor Little introduced the concept of self-monitoring to his personality psychology classes, some students got very worked up about whether it was ethical to be a high self-monitor. A few “mixed” couples—HSMs and LSMs in love—even broke up over it, he was told. To high self-monitors, low self-monitors can seem rigid and socially awkward. To low self-monitors, high self-monitors can come across as conformist and deceptive—“more pragmatic than principled,” in Mark Snyder’s words. Indeed, HSMs have been found to be better liars than LSMs, which would seem to support the moralistic stance taken by low self-monitors.””

Susan Cain

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Self-monitoring creates tension between authenticity and social conformity, affecting relationships and honesty.

In simple terms: High self-monitoring can seem deceptive; low self-monitoring can seem rigid.

Key Takeaway

Balance self-awareness with genuine behavior.

Themes

personality ethics relationships authenticity

Mood

reflective analytical

Type

philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • teamwork
  • leadership training

Key Concepts

self-monitoring social perception honesty

Questions to Reflect On

  • When does self-monitoring become harmful?
  • How can we foster authentic interactions?
A Different Perspective

Overemphasis on self-monitoring may erode trust.

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