How did I acquire those habits? Perhaps that's what…
““How did I acquire those habits? Perhaps that's what happens during he forging of a relationship: if nothing else, you adopt some of the other person's habits. It makes you feel those adoptions, make him one of you. Have you picked up habits from me? Do you draw circles with a finger on your thali when you have finished eating? Do you, every once in a while, squeeze shaving cream on to your toothbrush? DO you sleep with a knee drawn up to you, the bedclothes kicked away? Do you fold the newspaper neatly and put it where you found it, when you are done? Yesterday, when a cobalt blue smudge of wall ended up on my hand, I wiped on my trouser without thinking.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
We adopt habits from close others, often unconsciously, which can shape identity and behavior.
In simple terms: We copy habits from people we’re close to.
Key Takeaway
Notice and choose habits you adopt.
Themes
habits
influence
identity
relationships
Mood
curious
introspective
Type
philosophical
observational
When to use this quote
- family gatherings
- friend gatherings
- shared rituals
- daily routines
Key Concepts
social learning
behavioral mimicry
Questions to Reflect On
- Which habits have you inherited?
- Do they serve your goals?
A Different Perspective
Habit adoption can be unexamined, leading to unwanted patterns.