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“The reason we all like to think so well of others is that we are all afraid for ourselves. The basis of optimism is sheer terror. We think that we are generous because we credit our neighbour with the possession of those virtues that are likely to be a benefit to us. We praise the banker that we…” quote by Oscar Wilde
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““The reason we all like to think so well of others is that we are all afraid for ourselves. The basis of optimism is sheer terror. We think that we are generous because we credit our neighbour with the possession of those virtues that are likely to be a benefit to us. We praise the banker that we may overdraw our account, and find good qualities in the highwayman in the hope that he may spare our pockets. I mean everything that I have said. I have the greatest contempt for optimism.””

Oscar Wilde

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Optimism masks selfish fear; we admire others to reassure ourselves of personal safety and gain.

In simple terms: We like others to feel safe and benefit ourselves.

Key Takeaway

Recognize self‑interest behind praise.

Themes

self‑interest optimism fear human nature

Mood

cautious reflective

Type

philosophical critical

When to use this quote

  • personal relationships
  • business negotiations
  • political rhetoric
  • everyday compliments

Key Concepts

psychology social projection defense mechanisms

Questions to Reflect On

  • Why do we project virtues onto others?
  • How does fear shape our judgments?
A Different Perspective

Optimism can blind us to reality and foster complacency.

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