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“The reason we all like to think so well of others is that we are all afraid for ourselves. The basis of optimism is sheer terror. We think that we are generous because we credit our neighbour with the possession of those virtues that are likely to be a benefit to us. We praise the banker that we…” quote by Oscar Wilde
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““The reason we all like to think so well of others is that we are all afraid for ourselves. The basis of optimism is sheer terror. We think that we are generous because we credit our neighbour with the possession of those virtues that are likely to be a benefit to us. We praise the banker that we may overdraw our account, and find good qualities in the highwayman in the hope that he may spare our pockets. I mean everything that I have said. I have the greatest contempt for optimism. As for a spoiled life, no life is spoiled but one whose growth is arrested. If you want to mar a nature, you have merely to reform it.””

Oscar Wilde

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Optimism hides self‑interest; we admire others hoping their virtues benefit us, while fearing our own shortcomings.

In simple terms: We praise others to feel safe about ourselves.

Key Takeaway

Recognize self‑interest behind praise.

Themes

self‑interest optimism human nature critique

Mood

cautious critical reflective

Type

aphilosophical critical observational

When to use this quote

  • personal relationships
  • political discourse
  • self‑reflection
  • career advancement

Key Concepts

psychology philosophy social critique

Questions to Reflect On

  • Do you admire others for their own sake or for personal gain?
  • How does fear shape your view of optimism?
A Different Perspective

Optimism can blind us to genuine flaws and hinder growth.

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