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“At thirty years a woman asks her lover to give her back the esteem she has forfeited for his sake; she lives only for him, her thoughts are full of his future, he must have a great career, she bids him make it glorious; she can obey, entreat, command, humble herself, or rise in pride; times…” quote by Honore de Balzac
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“At thirty years a woman asks her lover to give her back the esteem she has forfeited for his sake; she lives only for him, her thoughts are full of his future, he must have a great career, she bids him make it glorious; she can obey, entreat, command, humble herself, or rise in pride; times without number she brings comfort when a young girl can only make moan.”

Honore de Balzac

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

A woman sacrifices her own esteem for her lover’s ambitions, submitting to his needs while losing her own identity.

In simple terms: Self‑sacrifice for a partner can erode personal worth.

Key Takeaway

Preserve self‑esteem while supporting loved ones.

Themes

love self‑worth sacrifice identity power dynamics

Mood

melancholic thoughtful

Type

literary philosophical

When to use this quote

  • marriage
  • career decisions
  • personal growth

Key Concepts

feminist theory psychology social roles

Questions to Reflect On

  • Do you balance personal goals with supporting a partner?
  • When does support become self‑neglect?
A Different Perspective

Blind devotion may lead to loss of self.

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