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“Whenever an occasion arose in which she needed an opinion on something in the wider world, she borrowed her husband's. If this had been all there was to her, she wouldn't have bothered anyone, but as is so often the case with such women, she suffered from an incurable case of of pretentiousness…” quote by Haruki Murakami
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“Whenever an occasion arose in which she needed an opinion on something in the wider world, she borrowed her husband's. If this had been all there was to her, she wouldn't have bothered anyone, but as is so often the case with such women, she suffered from an incurable case of of pretentiousness. Lacking any internalized values of her own, such people can arrive at a standpoint only by adopting other people's standards or views. The only principle that governs their minds is the question "How do I look?”

Haruki Murakami

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

She lacks personal values, relying on others' opinions, leading to pretentiousness; her identity is driven by how she appears to others.

In simple terms: She copies others' views and cares about appearances.

Key Takeaway

Cultivate authentic values.

Themes

identity authenticity pretentiousness social influence

Mood

introspective critical

Type

philosophical psychological

When to use this quote

  • personal growth
  • social media use
  • career decisions

Key Concepts

Self‑esteem external validation value formation

Questions to Reflect On

  • What core values do you hold independently?
  • How can you resist the pressure to look good?
A Different Perspective

Authenticity requires inner reflection, not just external approval.

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