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“We begin to change the dynamic of our relationships as we are able to share our reactions to others without holding them responsible for causing our feelings, and without blaming ourselves for the reactions that other people have in response to our choices & actions. We are responsible for our own…” quote by Harriet Lerner
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“We begin to change the dynamic of our relationships as we are able to share our reactions to others without holding them responsible for causing our feelings, and without blaming ourselves for the reactions that other people have in response to our choices & actions. We are responsible for our own behavior and we are not responsible for other people's reactions; nor are they responsible for ours.”

Harriet Lerner

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Responsibility for emotions lies with the individual, not with others; relationships improve when we own our feelings and actions.

In simple terms: Own your feelings, don’t blame others.

Key Takeaway

Take responsibility for your reactions.

Themes

emotional intelligence relationships personal growth

Mood

reflective calm

Type

advice psychology

When to use this quote

  • marriage counseling
  • parenting
  • teamwork
  • conflict resolution

Key Concepts

accountability self-awareness boundary setting

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you practice owning your feelings in a heated argument?
  • What boundaries help keep responsibility clear?
A Different Perspective

People may resist taking ownership, leading to friction.

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