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We all say we want our kids to be happy, only happy, and…

“We all say we want our kids to be happy, only happy, and healthy, but we don't want that. We want them to be like we are, or better than we are. We as humans are very unimaginative in that sense. We aren't equipped for the possibility that they might be worse. But I guess that would be asking too…” quote by Hanya Yanagihara
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““We all say we want our kids to be happy, only happy, and healthy, but we don't want that. We want them to be like we are, or better than we are. We as humans are very unimaginative in that sense. We aren't equipped for the possibility that they might be worse. But I guess that would be asking too much. It must be an evolutionary stopgap - if we were all so specifically, vividly aware of what might go horribly wrong, we would none of us have children at all.””

Hanya Yanagihara

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Critiques parental desire for children to mirror or surpass them, noting fear of worse outcomes.

In simple terms: Parents want kids like them, not worse.

Key Takeaway

Recognize realistic expectations for children.

Themes

parenting expectations evolutionary psychology

Mood

reflective concerned

Type

analytical philosophical

When to use this quote

  • parent‑child conversations
  • family therapy
  • educational planning

Key Concepts

family dynamics child development

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do expectations shape child identity?
  • What are healthy parental aspirations?
A Different Perspective

May overlook children's autonomy.

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