The most important finding of research into a genetic role…

“As parents who make every effort we can to raise our children in loving security, we do not need to feel more guilt than…

— Gabor Maté

“The fact is, we in this society are often quite removed from our own emotional reality.”

— Gabor Maté

“Shame is the deepest of the “negative emotions,” a feeling we will do almost anything to avoid. Unfortunately, our abiding fear of shame impairs…

— Gabor Maté

“Many adults have not attained maturity — have not mastered being independent, self-motivated individuals capable of tending their own emotional needs and of respecting…

— Gabor Maté

Autonomy is impossible as long as one is driven by anything.

— Gabor Mate

“If a mother has eight children, there are eight mothers. This is not simply because of the fact that the mother was different in…

— Gabor Maté

“Without attachment, the parent succeeds at most in cowing a child into obedience, at the price of grave damage to the relationship and to…

— Gabor Maté

“Attachment is our connection with the world. In the earliest attachment relationships, we gain or lose the ability to stay open, self-nurturing and healthy.…

— Gabor Maté

“So what you've actually got is traumatized children. When children are traumatized that affects how they feel about themselves, which is deeply ashamed because…

— Gabor Maté

“Even without world wars, revolutions and emigration, siblings growing up in the same home almost never share the same environment. More accurately, brothers and…

— Gabor Maté

“We think that there are people who are normal over here, and then there’s the pathological ones who have depression, anxiety, addiction or schizophrenia…

— Gabor Maté

“One cannot get much more vulnerable than to expose oneself psychologically. To share oneself with another and then be misunderstood or rejected is, for…

— Gabor Maté

“The areas of the cortex responsible for attention and self-regulation develop in response to the emotional interaction with the person whom we may call…

— Gabor Maté

“Peer-oriented children live in a universe of severely limited and superficial attachments. The quest for sameness being the least vulnerable way of attaching, it…

— Gabor Maté

“The United States contains less than 5 percent of the world’s population but houses nearly a quarter of the world’s prisoners.”

— Gabor Maté