But I don’t direct this thing, this attraction, to Emily…
““But I don’t direct this thing, this attraction, to Emily. It directs me. I try desperately to argue with it, to limit its influence, to channel it (into sex, for example), to deny it, to enjoy it and, yes, dammit, to make her respond! Even though I know that Emily and I have absolutely no chance of making a life together, the thought of her is an obsession. I am in the position of passionately wanting someone I don’t want at all and could find no use for if I had her.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
She feels an obsessive attraction to Emily, despite knowing a relationship is impossible, and struggles to control it.
In simple terms: She is obsessed with someone she can’t have.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and manage unreciprocated obsession.
Themes
obsession
unrequited love
inner conflict
Mood
melancholic
introspective
Type
psychological
literary
When to use this quote
- relationship counseling
- self‑reflection
- creative writing
- emotional health
Key Concepts
limerence
psychology of attraction
Questions to Reflect On
- Why do we cling to unattainable desires?
- What steps help redirect obsessive energy?
A Different Perspective
Obsession can impair judgment and well‑being.