“Miss Manners hereby absolves everyone from feeling any embarrassment deliberately imposed by others.” — Judith Martin Embarrassment Copy Share Image
There are three social classes in America: upper middle class, middle class, and lower middle class. — Judith Martin America Copy Share Image
Obviously I'm going to be polite, so nobody has anything to fear from me. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
You do not have to do everything disagreeable that you have a right to do — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
People will say, 'Seventy isn't old, it's middle-aged,' and I think, middle of what - 140? — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
everyone old enough to have a secret is entitled to have some place to keep it. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Freedom without rules doesn't work. And communities do not work unless they are regulated by etiquette. — Judith Martin Communities Copy Share Image
Miss Manners herself, while never rude, is given to pulling a fast pinch in the way of a handshake on those who… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
My children did not go through a stage of being rude to their parents. I'm sorry if that sounds incredible. — Judith Martin Being Copy Share Image
For email, the old postcard rule applies. Nobody else is supposed to read your postcards, but you'd be a fool if you… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
People who put slipcovers, doilies, plastic protectors, and cellophane on everything good that they own rarely live to see an occasion so… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Part of the skill of saying no is to shut up afterward and not babble on, offering material for an argument. — Judith Martin Argument Copy Share Image
“But sometimes one hears an Etiquette-Buster’s confession that rings true: “You make me feel guilty.” I’m not going to bother, this argument… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Dishonesty is not the only alternative to honesty. There is also the highly underrated virtue of shutting up. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
[after the death of a loved one] It is when there is nothing more to be done that the reality of the… — Judith Martin Death Copy Share Image
Should you happen to notice that another person is extremely tall or overweight, eats too much or declines convivial drinks, has red… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
It is wrong to wear diamonds before luncheon, except on one’s marriage rings. Before, after, and during breakfast, luncheon and dinner, it… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
In its natural state, the child tells the literal truth because it is too naive to think of anything else. Blurting out… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
The mistake people keep making is that if they find a wonderful new tool, like email, they have to give up all… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
'Honesty' in social life is often used as a cover for rudeness. But there is quite a difference between being candid in… — Judith Martin Candid Copy Share Image
It is a widespread and firm belief among guests that their departure is always a matter of distress to their hosts, and… — Judith Martin Belief Copy Share Image
Nowadays, we never allow ourselves the convenience of being temporarily unavailable, even to strangers. With telephone and beeper, people subject themselves to… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
One should not be assigned one's identity in society by the job slot one happens to fill. If we truly believe in… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“One can become quite proficient at this amiable patter; the trick is to omit the instructive parts when attending formal dinner parties… — Judith Martin Dinner parties Copy Share Image
“DEAR MISS MANNERS: When does a gentleman offer his arm to a lady as they are walking down the street together? GENTLE… — Judith Martin Books Copy Share Image
“DEAR MISS MANNERS: I a tired of being treated like a child. My father says it's because I am a child--I am… — Judith Martin Books Copy Share Image
“Relax!” “Don’t go to so much trouble!” “Why don’t you use plastic glasses?” “Take off your jacket!” “Why don’t you use paper… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“But why bother with guests at all? The virtual community is larger and less trouble than the relatives and friends upon whom… — Judith Martin Asking for money Copy Share Image
“Humility is easy, although Miss Manners much admires brilliant humility. The usual variety, with its claims about feeling awed and hoping to… — Judith Martin Humility Copy Share Image
Chaperons don't enforce morality; they force immorality to be discreet. — Judith Martin Character Copy Share Image
Honesty has come to mean the privilege of insulting you to your face without expecting redress. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“Why, you look marvelous! I don’t know what it is, but you look fabulous.” D” — Judith Martin Fabulous Copy Share Image
Only a person who considers himself too good for you is good enough. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
When virtues are pointed out first, flaws seem less insurmountable. — Judith Martin Character Copy Share Image
Being listened to should be sufficiently gratifying in itself, whether or not the advice is followed. — Judith Martin Advice Copy Share Image
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