“This portion of the chapter is directed at those of you whose son or daughter or other relative is in denial about… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Anxiety is a fact of life! Everyone experiences it. It began in our cave-dweller days as a fight-or-flight response . Think of… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“ LOW SELF-ESTEEM Characteristic of most people with social anxiety is low self-esteem. I showed you the sequence in Chapter 1. What… — Jonathan Berent Confidence Copy Share Image
“ Three Opening Topics of Conversation Use your information-gathering skills to devise topics that would interest you both. As your conversation proceeds,… — Jonathan Berent Adult education Copy Share Image
“ Meeting and Greeting 1. Use eye contact and smiling as your first contact with others. In doing so, you can scout… — Jonathan Berent City life Copy Share Image
“ OTHER RELAXATION TECHNIQUES There are many other stress management techniques that can help you to “bring yourself down” quickly when you… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“Socially anxious people of any age are likely to deny their problem, to assert, “I’m perfectly happy. I don’t need friends.” As… — Jonathan Berent Children Copy Share Image
“The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the reference manual used by mental health professionals to diagnose psychological problems,… — Jonathan Berent Emotional support Copy Share Image
“ PATTERNS OF THE “SHY” What else is common among people who identify themselves as “shy?” Below are the results of a… — Jonathan Berent Fear Copy Share Image
“ A Professional Image The image you project begins with the first phone call you make. If you feel some initial anxiety,… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Anxiety becomes negative when you start to avoid the situation that causes it. For example, if I were to stop making public… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“ Appearance Like it or not, appearance counts, especially in the workplace. Dressing appropriately and professionally is a minimum requirement when applying… — Jonathan Berent Fashion Copy Share Image
“While you weren’t “born shy,” you were born dependent. As an infant, you relied on your parents for all your personal care.… — Jonathan Berent Dependence Copy Share Image
“If you experience feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, your poor self-image may keep you from exploring your social self and getting… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Active Listening As a skill, active listening draws on many of the abilities you’ve developed so far, from your relaxation techniques… — Jonathan Berent Body language Copy Share Image
“Listed below are three basic rules that will help you become a successful candidate. Remember, however, that you need not be offered… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“What is the difference between an anxiety reaction and an anxiety attack? Perhaps it can best be explained by degree. The victim… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“These days, there are many different ways to enjoy yourself, and the interactive requirements vary considerably, so it wouldn’t be too hard… — Jonathan Berent Bottom line Copy Share Image
“ ELECTIVE MUTISM Social anxiety appears in many forms, some of which are only now coming to light. Socially anxious children, for… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“ On Paying Compliments Compliments, appropriately timed, allow you to develop a greater sense of rapport with your interactive partner. Most people… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Gaining insight or awareness is an important part of the getting-well process. Chapter 7 offers several exercises in self-awareness, designed to put… — Jonathan Berent Awareness Copy Share Image
“ Touching Like nodding, touching shows interest. Upon meeting someone, the best way to show respect and sincere interest is to shake… — Jonathan Berent Body language Copy Share Image
“ Anxiety and the Social Process Generally, in life, we only make progress when we are willing to take risks. If you… — Jonathan Berent Life Copy Share Image
“NOTE: Practice your most effective relaxation techniques before you begin these exercises (refer to Chapter 6 if necessary). People are better able… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ CONVERSATION GUIDELINES What is the secret to good conversation? Shared interest in the subject; easy, natural flow from topic to topic;… — Jonathan Berent Family life Copy Share Image
“ Changing Topics Changing topics gracefully is the hallmark of an excellent conversationalist. Changing topics keeps the conversation fresh and allows you… — Jonathan Berent Body language Copy Share Image
“In more than a decade of psychotherapy practice, I have met thousands of people who refer to themselves as “shy.” Often, these… — Jonathan Berent Stumbling block Copy Share Image
“You’ve begun to master several techniques for controlling your anxiety. You’re learning the finer points of interaction and studying ways to apply… — Jonathan Berent Basketball court Copy Share Image
“So what good is to be found in today’s metropolitan areas, amidst all the alienation, the anonymity, and the lack of cohesiveness… — Jonathan Berent Career Copy Share Image
“ Turning Rejection Around What if your friendly, hopeful conversation starter is not met with signals of approval or interest? If the… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“When your social anxiety becomes so great that you have to avoid the specific situation that causes it, you are dealing with… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“Groups are, in a sense, a microcosm of the real world. In all groups, there are leaders and followers . . .… — Jonathan Berent Expressing yourself Copy Share Image
“Picture the athlete at the starting line of a race—adrenaline pumping, energy flowing, muscles tightening, skin aglow with anticipatory perspiration, heart beating… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
