“So it is with grief where, if all goes well, can come a strengthening of the inner world, of memory and definition.” — Jeremy Holmes Grief Copy Share Image
“Attachment is a unifying principle that reaches from the biological depths of our being to its furthest spiritual reaches.” — Jeremy Holmes Attachment Copy Share Image
“Try to prise a limpet away from its rock and it will cling all the harder.” — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“Attachment exerted an invisible but powerful pull on the child, just as heavenly bodies are connected by gravitational forces. But unlike gravity,… — Jeremy Holmes Attachment Copy Share Image
“John Donne's 'A Valediction: forbidding mourning' concerns a sea voyage, and uses the image of a circle as an antidote to the… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“Bowlby uses the notion of faulty internal working models to describe different patterns of neurotic attachment. He sees the basic problem of… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“The unconscious operation of the attachment system via internal working models probably plays an important part in the choice of marital partner… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“The ambivalent strategy involves clinging to the care-giver, often with excessive submissiveness, or adopting a role-reversal in which the care-giver is cared… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“A securely attached child will store an internal working model of a responsive, loving, reliable care-giver, and of a self that is… — Jeremy Holmes Copy Share Image
“A person's attachment status is a fundamental determinant of their relationships, and this is reflected in the way they feel about themselves… — Jeremy Holmes Attachment Copy Share Image
“To feel attached is to feel safe and secure. By contrast, an insecurely attached person may have a mixture of feelings towards… — Jeremy Holmes Attachment-theory Copy Share Image
“In Separation (1973a), Bowlby puts forward a theory of agoraphobia based on the notion of anxious attachment. He sees agoraphobia, like school… — Jeremy Holmes Agoraphobia Copy Share Image
“The patient brings with him into therapy all the failures and suspicions and losses he has experienced through his life. The defensive… — Jeremy Holmes Failure Copy Share Image
“Bowlby's conviction that attachment needs continue throughout life and are not outgrown has important implications for psychotherapy. It means that the therapist… — Jeremy Holmes Attachment-theory Copy Share Image
