“George Washington became an official surveyor for Culpepper County at seventeen and a commissioned major in the militia at twenty;” — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“thy heart upon thy work, but never on its reward,” Krishna tells his student Arjuna in the Bhagavad Gita.)” — Jennifer Senior Arjuna Copy Share Image
“There is a certain part of all of us,” Milan Kundera writes, “that lives outside of time.” — Jennifer Senior Time Copy Share Image
“One could simply say it’s a legitimate fear-response, a reasonable and deeply internalized reaction to a shrinking economic pie.” — Jennifer Senior Fear Copy Share Image
“We enshrine things in memory very differently from how we experience them in real time.” — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“If that’s what joy is—connection—then to fully experience it requires something terrifying as well as exalting: opening oneself up to the possibility… — Jennifer Senior Connection Copy Share Image
“Having worked so hard to have children, parents may feel it's only natural to expect happiness from the experience. And they'll find… — Jennifer Senior Child Copy Share Image
“Adults,” Phillips writes, “are not less excessive in their behavior than adolescents. Concentration camps were not run by adolescents; adolescents are not… — Jennifer Senior Concentration camp Copy Share Image
“Dying, in other words — like combat, like becoming a parent, like any transformative life event — doesn’t always reveal or intensify… — Jennifer Senior Becoming a parent Copy Share Image
“Everyone is moving at the same speed toward the future. But your children are moving at that same speed with their eyes… — Jennifer Senior Children Copy Share Image
“That women bring home the bacon, fry it up, serve it for breakfast, and use its greasy remains to make candles for… — Jennifer Senior Bacon Copy Share Image
“In addition, Steinberg has found that adolescence is especially rough on parents who don't have an outside interest, whether it be work… — Jennifer Senior Child Copy Share Image
“SOME OF THE HARDEST parts of parenting never change—like sleep deprivation, which, according to researchers at Queen’s University in Ontario, can in… — Jennifer Senior Deprivation Copy Share Image
“As parents, we sometimes mistakenly assume that things were always this way. They weren't. The modern family is just that - modern… — Jennifer Senior Parenting Copy Share Image
“If it’s of any comfort, B. J. Casey and her colleagues speculate that there’s an evolutionary reason why Kirk rather than Spock… — Jennifer Senior Adventure Copy Share Image
“And women, it turns out, pay a steep economic price for being mothers: according to Shelley Correll, a Stanford sociologist who looks… — Jennifer Senior Age gap Copy Share Image
“Our stories may not always be pleasant as they’re being lived. They can in fact be just the opposite, acquiring a warm… — Jennifer Senior Happiness Copy Share Image
“He just has to step away from the moment to see it. Which isn’t surprising. Lots of parents will tell you that… — Jennifer Senior Child Copy Share Image
“Drawing from 1.7 million Gallup surveys collected between 2008 and 2012, researchers Angus Deaton and Arthur Stone found that parents with children… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Over time, researchers who look at the adolescent brain have therefore alighted on a variety of metaphors and analogies to describe their… — Jennifer Senior Science Copy Share Image
“And if that’s the case—if we are our remembering selves—then it matters far less how we feel moment to moment with our… — Jennifer Senior Children Copy Share Image
“Making matters worse, the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that governs so much of our higher executive function—the ability to… — Jennifer Senior Copy Share Image
“Yet somehow mothers and fathers believe that if only they could convey the logic of their decisions, their young children would understand… — Jennifer Senior Children Copy Share Image
“More than almost anything else, the experience of parenthood exposes the gulf between our experiencing and remembering selves. Our experiencing selves tell… — Jennifer Senior Children Copy Share Image
“researchers have discovered that adolescents do not walk around with a defect that prevents them from properly assessing risk. B. J. Casey,… — Jennifer Senior Risk Copy Share Image
“Parents can project into the future; their young children, anchored in the present, have a much harder time of it. This difference… — Jennifer Senior Child Copy Share Image
“But these gains in freedom for both men and women often seem like a triumph of subtraction rather than addition. Over time,… — Jennifer Senior Freedom Copy Share Image
“THE SENTIMENTALIZATION OF CHILDHOOD has produced a great many paradoxes. The most curious, however, may be that children have acquired more and… — Jennifer Senior Childhood Copy Share Image
“But here’s the thing,” says Paul. “I would bet that if someone did a study and asked, ‘Okay, your kid’s three, rank… — Jennifer Senior Daily life Copy Share Image
“This is another thing that quantitative studies of American time use cannot show you: for the majority of mothers, time is fractured… — Jennifer Senior Clock Copy Share Image
“This is what parents do -- what all of us do, in fact, when we're at our unrivaled best. We bind ourselves… — Jennifer Senior Caring Copy Share Image
“Alas, that’s what adulthood is supposed to be about: “an overcoming” or (better yet) “a disciplining of a developmentally appropriate insanity.” — Jennifer Senior Adulthood Copy Share Image
“ERIK ERIKSON, ONE OF the most innovative psychoanalysts of the twentieth century, wrote about these moments of existential review in his work… — Jennifer Senior Human life Copy Share Image
“We enshrine things to memory very differently than we experience them in real time. The psychologist Daniel Kahneman has coined a couple… — Jennifer Senior Children Copy Share Image
“No matter how perfect our circumstances, most of us, as Adam Phillips observed, “learn to live somewhere between the lives we have… — Jennifer Senior Life Copy Share Image
“But the truth is, there's little even the most organized people can do to prepare themselves for having children. They can buy… — Jennifer Senior Child Copy Share Image
“Complicating matters, adolescent brains are more susceptible to substance abuse and dependence than adult brains, because they’re making so many new synaptic… — Jennifer Senior Adolescent Copy Share Image
“They also create wormholes in time, transporting their mothers and fathers back to feelings and sensations they haven't had since they themselves… — Jennifer Senior Adulthood Copy Share Image
“And how long an activity lasts seems to have little influence on our recollections at all—two weeks of vacation, Kahneman noted in… — Jennifer Senior Memory Copy Share Image
