“The fact is, we in this society are often quite removed from our own emotional reality.” — Gabor Maté Emotional Copy Share Image
“I needed to write, to express myself through written language not only so that others might hear me but so that I… — Gabor Maté Language Copy Share Image
“The United States contains less than 5 percent of the world’s population but houses nearly a quarter of the world’s prisoners.” — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Loneliness has been similarly associated with diminished immune activity in a group of psychiatric inpatients.” — Gabor Maté Loneliness Copy Share Image
It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addict finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or the… — Gabor Mate Copy Share Image
“Counterwill is an instinctive, automatic resistance to any sense of being forced. It is triggered whenever a person feels controlled or pressured… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Couples choose each other with an unerring instinct for finding the very person who will exactly match their own level of unconscious… — Gabor Maté Couples Copy Share Image
“The most important finding of research into a genetic role for alcoholism is that there is no such thing as a gene… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Strong convictions do not necessarily signal a powerful sense of self: very often quite the opposite. Intensely held beliefs may be no… — Gabor Maté Faith Copy Share Image
“Those whom we dismiss as “junkies” are not creatures from a different world, only men and women mired at the extreme end… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“When we focus narrowly on what we should be doing, we become blind to our attachment relationship with our children and its… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“What we call the personality is often a jumble of genuine traits and adopted coping styles that do not reflect our true… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“The power to parent will be transferred to whomever the child depends on, whether or not that person is truly dependable, appropriate,… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Attacking family members is all too typical of peer-oriented children, leaving parents and siblings wounded. In most cases, the attacks will not… — Gabor Maté Aggression Copy Share Image
“One cannot get much more vulnerable than to expose oneself psychologically. To share oneself with another and then be misunderstood or rejected… — Gabor Maté Loved ones Copy Share Image
“Reactions can be gratifyingly mature at one time but distressingly immature at another. If some deeply unconscious anxiety is triggered, a person… — Gabor Maté Anger Copy Share Image
“What [my patients] care about is my presence or absence as a human being. They gauge with unerring eye whether I am… — Gabor Maté Addiction-and-recovery Copy Share Image
“When a child becomes so attached to her peers that she would rather be with them and be like them, those peers,… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A… — Gabor Mate Addiction Copy Share Image
“We have seen that the individual’s brain circuits are decisively influenced by the emotional states of the parents, in the context of… — Gabor Maté Community Copy Share Image
“North American society tries to bury many problems under tons of medications, preferring to ignore the social and cultural causes of people’s… — Gabor Maté American society Copy Share Image
“While we cannot say that any personality type causes cancer, certain personality features definitely increase the risk because they are more likely… — Gabor Maté Cancer Copy Share Image
“Nowadays it often takes two parents working full-time to secure the same standard of living one wage earner could provide thirty or… — Gabor Maté Best intentions Copy Share Image
“The contrasts between traditional multigenerational cultures and today's North American society are striking. In modern urbanized North America — and in other… — Gabor Maté American society Copy Share Image
“Vulnerability is usually attacked, not with fists but with shaming. Many children learn quickly to cover up any signs of weakness, sensitivity,… — Gabor Maté Best friend Copy Share Image
“The only reason for a child not to be aware of his own vulnerability is that it has become too much to… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“A dramatic illustration of how environment shapes personality is the story of the Gilmore family. On January 17, 1978, in Utah, the… — Gabor Maté Death sentence Copy Share Image
“The transmission of culture assures the survival of the particular forms given to our existence and expression as human beings. It goes… — Gabor Maté Blind obedience Copy Share Image
“There is yet another reason why peer-oriented kids are insatiable. In order to reach the turning point, a child must not only… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Disease is not simply a manifestation of some physical process unique to the individual, but it reflects their particular lives, environment and… — Gabor Maté Disease Copy Share Image
“If a mother has eight children, there are eight mothers. This is not simply because of the fact that the mother was… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Compassionate curiosity about the self does not mean liking everything we find out about ourselves, only that we look at ourselves with… — Gabor Maté Compassion Copy Share Image
“Many of us live, if not alone, then in emotionally inadequate relationships that do not recognize or honour our deepest needs. Isolation… — Gabor Maté Loneliness Copy Share Image
“External motivators for behavior such as rewards and punishments may destroy the precious internal motivation to be good, making leverage by such… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Creatures of attachment are creatures of instinct and impulse. It doesn't feel good or right or proper to seek favor in the… — Gabor Maté Attachment Copy Share Image
“Attachment, we have noted, does its work invisibly. People who out of pure instinct have created a good attachment relationship with their… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“We see that substance addictions are only one specific form of blind attachment to harmful ways of being, yet we condemn the… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
A long-term substance abuser, a few months before his death, penned this poem: Went downtown, Hastings and Main, looking for relief from… — Gabor Mate Abusers Copy Share Image
Medical thinking usually sees stress as highly disturbing but isolated events such as, for example, sudden unemployment, a marriage breakup, or the… — Gabor Mate Breakup Copy Share Image
“The body’s hormonal system is inextricably linked with the brain centres where emotions are experienced and interpreted. In turn, the hormonal apparatus… — Gabor Maté Immune system Copy Share Image
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