“We can actually reconstruct our past by examining what we think, say, feel, expect, believe, and do in an intimate relationship now.” — David Richo Copy Share Image
“Once we love ourselves, people no longer look good to us unless they are good for us.” — David Richo Copy Share Image
We were born with four words engraved on our bodies and in our hearts: Love me, hold me. — David Richo Body Copy Share Image
“The foundation of adult trust is not "You will never hurt me." It is "I trust myself with whatever you do.” — David Richo Copy Share Image
“spirituality. In healthy intimate relationships we do not seek more than 25 percent of our nurturance from a partner; we learn to… — David Richo Health Copy Share Image
It is not that practice makes perfect but that practice is perfect, combining effort with an openness to grace. — David Richo Effort Copy Share Image
“For all that has been: Thanks! For all that shall be: Yes! —DAG HAMMARSKJÖLD, Markings” — David Richo Copy Share Image
True optimism is not the prospect of control over pain or elimination of it but survival through it. — David Richo Copy Share Image
“I appreciate the ways others love me, no matter how limited. I am letting go of expecting - or demanding - that… — David Richo Copy Share Image
In the hero stories, the call to go on a journey takes the form of a loss, an error, a wound, an… — David Richo Copy Share Image
We all recall the cruel stepmother in fairy tales. That archetype is often a necessary element in a fairy tale so that… — David Richo Archetype Copy Share Image
“The best response comes from action, not from intellect. For example, we may hear this question: “If love rules the world, why… — David Richo Acceptance Copy Share Image
In mindful grief, we become the landing strip that allows any feelings to arrive. Some crash, some land softly. Some harm us,… — David Richo Copy Share Image
“Real love does not come off the rack; it is uniquely tailored by the lover to the beloved. Part of the pain… — David Richo Beloved Copy Share Image
There is a natural and inviolable tendency in things to bloom into whatever they truly are in the core of their being.… — David Richo Copy Share Image
“It took just such evil and painful things for the great emancipation to occur,” Nietzsche said. He is also the one who… — David Richo Nietzsche Copy Share Image
Just as our fingerprints are one-of-a-kind, so is our identity. Each of us is a once-only articulation of what humans can be.… — David Richo Copy Share Image
Mindfulness is an ancient meditation mode in which we let go of our fears, our attachments to control and being right, our… — David Richo Ancient Copy Share Image
In a true you-and-I relationship, we are present mindfully, nonintrusively, the way we are present with things in nature.We do not tell… — David Richo Agendas Copy Share Image
Bread takes the effort of kneading but also requires sitting quietly while the dough rises with a power all its own. — David Richo Bread Copy Share Image
Once we make our relationship choices in an adult way, a prospective partner who is unavailable, nonreciprocal, or not open to processing… — David Richo Adults Copy Share Image
Fate often allows a future to take shape with no regard for our expectation, plan, or readiness. Fate's skillful editing of our… — David Richo Copy Share Image
Early fear was felt cellularly and was indeed real. Defensive postures were necessary, but defenses generalize cellularly in adulthood and do not… — David Richo Adulthood Copy Share Image
The Five A’s (attention, appreciation, acceptance, affection, allowing) are simultaneously the fulfillment of our earliest needs, the requirements of adult intimacy and… — David Richo Acceptance Copy Share Image
A healthy person is not perfect but perfectible, not a done deal but a work in progress. Staying healthy takes discipline, work,… — David Richo Copy Share Image
Our higher needs include making full use of our gifts, finding and fulfilling our calling, being loved and cherished just for ourselves,… — David Richo Acceptance Copy Share Image
