“...whenever i dehumanize another, I necessarily dehumanize all that is human---including myself.” — Arbinger Institute Dehumanize Copy Share Image
“If we are poor learners, our teaching will be ineffective.” — Arbinger Institute Conflict Copy Share Image
“Seeing an equal person as an inferior object is an act of violence” — Arbinger Institute Equality Copy Share Image
“My disability was my justification! It was my excuse for failing to engage with the world.” — Arbinger Institute Disability Copy Share Image
“Because if you are the mess, you can clean it. Improvement doesn't depend on others.” — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“always remember that it is progress, not perfection, you should be looking for.” — Arbinger Institute Excellence Copy Share Image
“Have you ever been in a conflict with someone who thought he was wrong. If you are not wrong, then you will… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“If we have deep problems, it's because we are failing at the deepest part of the solution. And when we fail at… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“If you see people of a particular race or culture as objects, your view of them is racist, whatever your color or… — Arbinger Institute Race Copy Share Image
“As painful as it is to receive contempt from another, it is more debilitating by far to be filled with contempt for… — Arbinger Institute Contempt Copy Share Image
“People whose hearts are at war toward others can't consider others' objections and challenges enough to be able to find a way… — Arbinger Institute Objections Copy Share Image
“... if I'm sure I'm right, there is little hope of seeing where I am failing. So I keep trying the same… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“There is a question I have learned to ask myself when I am feeling bothered about others: am I holding myself to… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“...no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right. Solution is possible only when at least… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“In the way we regard our children, our spouses, neighbors, colleagues, and strangers, we choose to see others either as people like… — Arbinger Institute Children Copy Share Image
“...when I betray myself, others' faults become immediately inflated in my heart and mind. I begin to 'horribilize' others. That is, I… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“So if we are going to find lasting solutions to difficult conflicts or external wars we find ourselves in, we first need… — Arbinger Institute War Copy Share Image
“Most wars between individuals are of the 'cold' rather than the 'hot' variety---lingering resentment, for example, grudges long held, resources clutched rather… — Arbinger Institute Anger Copy Share Image
“The more sure I am that I'm right, the more likely I will actually be mistaken. My need to be right makes… — Arbinger Institute Truth Copy Share Image
“But like many who are lonely, I was more preoccupied with others than were those who lived to socialize...Everyone I hated was… — Arbinger Institute Copy Share Image
“A solution to the inner war solves the outer war as well.” — Arbinger Institute War Copy Share Image
“In every moment...we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects. They either count like we do or… — Arbinger Institute Every moment Copy Share Image
