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To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a…

“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise," writes psychologist Erich Fromm. "If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay…” quote by Ada Calhoun
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““To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise," writes psychologist Erich Fromm. "If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision?””

Ada Calhoun

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Love is a conscious choice and commitment, not merely an emotion; it requires judgment and promise for lasting partnership.

In simple terms: Love is a decision, not just feeling.

Key Takeaway

Choose love deliberately.

Themes

commitment choice relationships

Mood

reflective thoughtful

Type

philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • marriage counseling
  • long‑term partnership
  • personal growth

Key Concepts

psychology ethics philosophy

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do you turn affection into a promise?
  • What decisions sustain love over time?
A Different Perspective

Feelings alone cannot guarantee durability.

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