“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If you are looking for love under rocks or bringing home water moccasins, you might be confusing love and pain.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Under this aura of perfection he knows how flawed he really is but his intact denial system keeps this awareness suppressed in… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Black and white thinking limits understanding and feedback, two necessary ingredients for successful resolution in creative conflict and successful understanding.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When this low self-worth is hidden, one can understand why the person becomes hypersensitive to the opinions of others and has a… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a compulsive, crazy making… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“With improved coping skills forged through my midlife crisis, I now listen first and do not control, and I allow these now… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Our parents were our first gods. If parents are loving, nurturing, and kind, this becomes the child’s definition of the creator. If… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Many of the habits of dysfunctional families use are not from the lack of love but are the result of fear. Knowing… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Since children from dysfunctional families are so good at judging others, they also judge themselves finding themselves unacceptable when compared to others,… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Wounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a laundry list of maladaptive behaviors… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Children have empty erasable white boards upon which big people write indelibly imprinted messages into their tender subconscious minds.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Reality may not be what you want it to be, but it is the reality you now must face. You can deny… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“As a parent who raised his children in dysfunction, I know the parental wounds my children received were not intentional; often they… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When I learned about the gray existing between the black and white of absolute terms, I began to experience more peace. The… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“This imbalance causes resentments within the over-responsible and dependency with the irresponsible person and this dynamic becomes the destructive life-pattern not conducive… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Families living in dysfunction seldom have healthy boundaries. Dysfunctional families have trouble knowing where they stop and others begin.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Codependency is a learned set of behaviors, thought processes, and habits. When combined together, they fit a very loose definition. All people… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Swirling in a squirrel cage of perpetual motion, the head-committee meets, argues, votes out the guidance available from emotions, and successfully keeps… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Consider letting go of the barriers between yourself and others, let go of the definition our culture has inflicted upon us and… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When one person attempts to “fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and receiver… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Being judgmental is a form of attack keeping others off balance.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is an ongoing… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a compulsive, crazy making squirrel-on-a-wheel way… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“People who are unwilling to talk about deep personal issues do not trust their own emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“People pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“This is what we desire in intimate relationships but this deep connection is often so frightful that most do not take advantage of the… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Honoring your word is the fiber from which trust is built.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of my own… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Our parents were our first gods. If parents are loving, nurturing, and kind, this becomes the child’s definition of the creator. If parents were… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Many people look at their past and bemoan their mistakes. Those errors in judgment, behavior, hurting others, and the wrong decisions may be what… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share