“Controlling others is the cornerstone of dysfunctional families.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“We ardently desire to take down our masks and say to the world, “This is who I am…and I am okay.” This… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When you journey inwardly exploring yourself, a sense of personal trust begins.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Children naturally believe without question and absorb knowledge at an incredible rate; since there is no other frame of reference; they believe… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Shame is a powerful feeling. There is a tremendous difference between making a mistake and believing you are a mistake...If I don’t… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“When someone obtains peace and serenity, this shines a bright spotlight on others’ own unhappiness making their discomfort even more apparent.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Chaos limits the free-flow of love and becomes a roadblock to what family members want most and sadly, it becomes the normal… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“REAL people do not have to lie, exaggerate, or brag for they are self-contained in self-understanding and acceptance of themselves. REAL people… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“You did not invent these family habits. Your family is like mine, for thousands and thousands of years our families have embraced… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Others hide from being real by filling the air with words; the more words they throw out, the less actual communication happens… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Many of the habits of dysfunctional families use are not from the lack of love but are the result of fear. Knowing… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Since children from dysfunctional families are so good at judging others, they also judge themselves finding themselves unacceptable when compared to others,… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“It is very difficult to develop a proper sense of self-esteem in a dysfunctional family. Having very little self-worth, looking at one’s… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“If you are looking for love under rocks or bringing home water moccasins, you might be confusing love and pain.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Under this aura of perfection he knows how flawed he really is but his intact denial system keeps this awareness suppressed in… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“As a parent who raised his children in dysfunction, I know the parental wounds my children received were not intentional; often they… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“This imbalance causes resentments within the over-responsible and dependency with the irresponsible person and this dynamic becomes the destructive life-pattern not conducive… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Families living in dysfunction seldom have healthy boundaries. Dysfunctional families have trouble knowing where they stop and others begin.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“Swirling in a squirrel cage of perpetual motion, the head-committee meets, argues, votes out the guidance available from emotions, and successfully keeps… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share Image
“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Being judgmental is a form of attack keeping others off balance.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is an ongoing… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a compulsive, crazy making squirrel-on-a-wheel way… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“People who are unwilling to talk about deep personal issues do not trust their own emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“People pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“This is what we desire in intimate relationships but this deep connection is often so frightful that most do not take advantage of the… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Honoring your word is the fiber from which trust is built.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of my own… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Our parents were our first gods. If parents are loving, nurturing, and kind, this becomes the child’s definition of the creator. If parents were… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.” — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
“Many people look at their past and bemoan their mistakes. Those errors in judgment, behavior, hurting others, and the wrong decisions may be what… — David W. Earle LPC- Love is Not Enough Copy Share
