More men feel comfortable doing "public speaking," while more women feel comfortable doing "private" speaking. — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
“If women resent men's tendency to offer solutions to problems, men complain about women's refusal to take action to solve the problems.” — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
“Yet another man commented that women seem to wallow in their problems, wanting to talk about them forever, whereas he and other… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
Many men honestly do not know what women want, and women honestly do not know why men find what they want so… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
Many women feel it is natural to consult with their partners at every turn, while many men automatically make more decisions without… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
If women are often frustrated because men do not respond to their troubles by offering matching troubles, men are often frustrated because… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
Some days you just want to get dressed and go about your business. But if you're a woman, you can't, because there… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
Part of the reason images of women in positions of authority are marked by their gender is that the very notion of… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
The desire for freedom and independence becomes more of an issue for many men in relationships, whereas interdependence and connection become more… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
“Many women could learn from men to accept some conflict and difference without seeing it as a threat to intimacy, and many… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
The Pavlovian view of women voters - plug the words in, and they will respond - sends a chill down my spine… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
To say anything about women and men without marking oneself as either feminist or anti-feminist, male-basher or apologist for men seems as… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share Image
In dialogue, there is opposition, yes, but no head-on collision. Smashing heads does not open minds. — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
Cooperation isn't the absence of conflict but a means of managing conflict. — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
“A woman will be inclined to repeat a request that doesn't get a response because she is convinced that her husband would do what… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
Like most men, my father is interested in action. And this is why he disappoints my mother when she tells him she doesn't feel… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
“...You're so real. That's why we love you." ... Her friend's response reflected the reciprocity of showing vulnerability. It is a gift not only… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
The desire for freedom and independence becomes more of an issue for many men in relationships, whereas interdependence and connection become more of an… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
To say anything about women and men without marking oneself as either feminist or anti-feminist, male-basher or apologist for men seems as impossible for… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
Communication is a continualbalancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacyand independence. To survivein the world, we have to act in concert with others,… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
Treating people the same is not equal treatment if they are not the same. — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
“One reason it's so difficult to decide what to say became immediately clear: comments and questions that some appreciated were not appreciated by others.” — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
All conversation, in addition to whatever else it does, displays, and asks for recognition of, our competence. — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
When those closest to us respond to events differently than we do, when they seem to see the same scene as part of a… — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships. — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
Life is a matter of dealing with other people, in little matters and cataclysmic ones, and that means a series of conversations. — Deborah Tannen Copy Share
