The question for the child is not Do I want to be good? but Whom do I want to be like? — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The child intuitively comprehends that although these stories are unreal, they are not untrue ... — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Raising children is a creative endeavor, an art rather than a science. — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
“All my life, I have been working with children whose lives were destroyed because their mothers hated them.” 1981 re: cause of autism” — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Among the most valuable but least appreciated experiences parenthood can provide are the opportunities it offers for exploring, reliving, and resolving one's… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
What children learn from punishment is that might makes right. When they are old and strong enough, they will try to get… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Whoever influences the child's life ought to try to give him a positive view of himself and of his world. The child's… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
To be a good enough parent one must be able to feel secure in one's parenthood, and one's relation to one's child...The… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The fear of failure is so great, it is no wonder that the desire to do right by one's children has led… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Not only is our love for our children sometimes tinged with annoyance, discouragement, and disappointment, the same is true for the love… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Play permits the child to resolve in symbolic form unsolved problems of the past and to cope directly or symbolically with present… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
You can't teach children to be good. The best you can do for your child is to live a good life yourself.… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The parent must not give in to his desire to try to create the child he would like to have, but rather… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
A parent who from his own childhood experience is convinced of the value of fairy tales will have no difficulty in answering… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Most advice on child-rearing is sought in the hope that it will confirm our prior convictions. If the parent had wished to… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The good enough parent, in addition to being convinced that whatever his child does, he does it because at that moment he… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The only effective way to help well-intentioned, intelligent persons to do the best they can in raising children is to encourage and… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The child knows only that he engages in play because it is enjoyable. He isn't aware of his need to play--a need… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Plato--who may have understood better what forms the mind of man than do some of our contemporaries who want their children exposed… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Although we like to think of young children's lives as free of troubles, they are in fact filled with disappointment and frustration.… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
From a child's play, we can gain understanding of how he sees and construes the world--what he would like it to be,… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The goal in raising one's child is to enable him, first, to discover who he wants to be, and then to become… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
As the creative adult needs to toy with ideas, the child, to form his ideas, needs toys--and plenty of leisure and scope… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The good enough mother, owing to her deep empathy with her infant, reflects in her face his feelings; this is why he… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
To be told that our child's behavior is "normal" offers little solace when our feelings are badly hurt, or when we worry… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
This is exactly the message that fairy tales get across to the child in manifold form: that a struggle against severe difficulties… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
As Anna Freud remarked, the toddler who wanders off into some other aisle, feels lost, and screams anxiously for his mother neversays… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Parents ought, through their own behavior and the values by which they live, to provide direction for their children. But they need… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
Fairy tales are loved by the child not because the imagery he finds in them conforms to what goes on within him,… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
A child... who has learned from fairy stories to believe that what at first seemed a repulsive, threatening figure can magically change… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share Image
The goal in raising one's child is to enable him, first, to discover who he wants to be, and then to become a person… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
The question for the child is not Do I want to be good? but Whom do I want to be like? — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
Since there are thousands of fairy tales, one may safely guess that there are probably equal numbers where the courage and determination of females… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
Not only is our love for our children sometimes tinged with annoyance, discouragement, and disappointment, the same is true for the love our children… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
To be a good enough parent one must be able to feel secure in one's parenthood, and one's relation to one's child...The security of… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
Parents ought, through their own behavior and the values by which they live, to provide direction for their children. But they need to rid… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
The child intuitively comprehends that although these stories are unreal, they are not untrue ... — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
No longer can we be satisfied with a life where the heart has its reasons which reason cannot know. Our hearts must know the… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
Plato--who may have understood better what forms the mind of man than do some of our contemporaries who want their children exposed only to… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
The good enough parent, in addition to being convinced that whatever his child does, he does it because at that moment he is convinced… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
The fear of failure is so great, it is no wonder that the desire to do right by one's children has led to a… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
The good enough mother, owing to her deep empathy with her infant, reflects in her face his feelings; this is why he sees himselfin… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
You can't teach children to be good. The best you can do for your child is to live a good life yourself. What a… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
Play permits the child to resolve in symbolic form unsolved problems of the past and to cope directly or symbolically with present concerns. It… — Bruno Bettelheim Copy Share
