I'm a good example of wanting to apologize only for my precise share of a problem--as I calculate it, of course--and I… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
“People's sense of self worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they've caused. The more solid one's… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
“If the other person has pushed through his or her discomfort to do the right thing and apologize, we can push through… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
Being able to make a sincere apology - one that says, "Yes, I get it; I screwed up. Your feelings make sense,… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
If you're married to an entrenched non-apologizer, it won't help to doggedly demand one. Some folks lack the self-esteem required to take… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
It's true that over-apologizing interrupts the flow of conversation and irritates the person who has to stop and offer reassurance, like, "No,… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
I'd say that while it's normal to long for an apology, if you really need it, you're not ready to speak to… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
Before modern feminism, stories of female ambition were silenced or erased; even now, they are told with apology ("Yes, it's a great… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
Request an apology when you believe you deserve one, but don't get in a tug of war about it. Instead, be a… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
There are some things for which there is no apology, and on the question of slavery, there is no adequate apology for… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
The best apology, I think, was from my husband, Steve, who slept with a close friend of mine decades back, when we… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
“The need for apologies and repair is a singularly human one---both on the giving and receiving ends. We are hardwired to seek… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
“The best apologies are short, and don't go on to include explanations that run the risk of undoing them. An apology isn't… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
“Letting go of anger and hate requires us to give up the hope for a different past, along with the hope of a fantasized… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
“There’s a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don’t need outside affirmation and praise. This is patently untrue, by the way.” — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
If you exchanged wedding vows, tape them to your bathroom mirror and read them aloud to yourself every morning along with the ritual brushing… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
“People's sense of self worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they've caused. The more solid one's sense of… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Being able to make a sincere apology - one that says, "Yes, I get it; I screwed up. Your feelings make sense, and I'm… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
“Everyone freaks out. Sometimes the best we can do with fear is befriend it. Expect it and understand that fear will always reappear. Eventually… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
There are some things for which there is no apology, and on the question of slavery, there is no adequate apology for ripping people… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Don't count on the power of your love or your nagging to create something that wasn't there to begin with. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
