“It is fine to commiserate with a man about his bad experience with a previous partner, but the instant he uses her… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Sometimes I cry, wondering how it was possible that I could have been so goddamn weak, so f*cking spineless. Without you around,… — Heather Demetrios Copy Share Image
But whether you stay or go, the critical decision you can make is to stop letting your partner distort the lens of… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Many neglected and abused children grow up to be adults who are afraid to take risks of striking out on their own.… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“I have sometimes said to a client: “If you are so in touch with your feelings from your abusive childhood, then you… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers. They have… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“In a healthy relationship, vulnerability is wonderful. It leads to increased intimacy and closer bonds. When a healthy person realizes that he… — Christina Enevoldsen Copy Share Image
“Abusive relationships exist because they provide enough rations of warmth, laughter, and affection to clutch onto like a security blanket in the… — Maggie Young Copy Share Image
“There came a time in my life when I had to admit to myself that I have some very clear narcissistic tendencies.… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“Playing the victim role: Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behavior in order to… — George K. Simon Jr Copy Share Image
“You can have a pet zebra and put that zebra into a small cage every day and tell the zebra that you… — C. JoyBell C Copy Share Image
“Although the typical abusive man works to maintain a positive public image, it is true that some women have abusive partners who… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“IN ONE IMPORTANT WAY, an abusive man works like a magician: His tricks largely rely on getting you to look off in… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“To make matters worse, everyone she talks to has a different opinion about the nature of his problem and what she should… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Women may come to the recovery process to "fix" their relationships, but what they end up learning is how to rescue and… — Carol A Lambert Copy Share Image
“The confusion of love with abuse is what allows abusers who kill their partners to make the absurd claim that they were… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Somehow it felt familiar, an old story retold, the claws in my shoulder, my arms twisted behind my back, the drag down… — Kaimana Wolff Copy Share Image
Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“I think maybe, when I was very young, I witnessed a chaste cheek kiss between the two when it was impossible to… — Gillian Flynn Copy Share Image
