Bigger Quote by Xaviera Hollander
“I might not be a psychiatrist, but I am convinced that sex is not as important as we tend to make it. First there is that little feeling, that little red flame, called love. Blow on the flame and make it get bigger like a fire, don't blow it out like a candle.”
About This Quote
Source Interview: Xaviera Hollander on Love and Sex, 1970s
Love is a deeper, enduring connection, while sex is a fleeting physical act often overstated in importance.
In simple terms: Love matters more than sex.
Key Takeaway
Prioritize emotional intimacy over physical desire.
Themes
love
relationships
intimacy
sex
values
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- dating
- long‑term partnership
- sexual health education
Key Concepts
emotional connection
cultural attitudes
relationship dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you balance emotional and physical needs?
- What cultural messages shape your view of sex?
A Different Perspective
Sex can be a vital part of a relationship for some; reducing its importance may overlook personal needs.
