Quote by Tiffanie DeBartolo
““He isn’t like most guys, you know?' I know.' No, but do you really know? I mean here’s the deal, what do most guys want from a woman? I’ll tell you what we want. We want a warm body to sleep next to, preferably one with a nice pair of tits, maybe someone who’ll cook for us and fuck us on a regular basis. Pretty simple, huh? Now, what we don’t want is someone who’s going to come in and disrupt our lives and steal our souls. That’s what we fear most. We call it our freedom, but it’s our souls we’re talking about. You following me?' I nodded. Okay, good. Now forget it. Forget all that,' Pete said. 'Because Jacob’s not like that. He’s never been like that. He’s a damn fool and he wants the exact opposite of all that. He wants someone to obsess over, someone to possess his soul, and those are his corny words, by the way, not mine. It’s what he lives for. It’s what he thinks life’s all about. Do you get what I’m saying?' I nodded again.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Girl Who Was Not There by Tiffanie DeBartolo, 2015
The speaker contrasts stereotypical male desires—physical comfort and casual sex—with a deeper fear of losing personal freedom, while noting a character who seeks emotional possession instead.
In simple terms: Men fear losing freedom; one man wants deep connection.
Key Takeaway
Recognize differing relationship needs.
Themes
relationships
gender dynamics
fear
desire
identity
Mood
conflicted
thoughtful
Type
narrative
conversational
When to use this quote
- dating
- friendship
- self‑reflection
- relationship counseling
Key Concepts
masculinity
emotional dependence
possessiveness
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you prioritize freedom or intimacy?
- How do you balance personal autonomy with partnership?
A Different Perspective
Some may view this as a broad generalization of men.
