Allowing Quote by T. Thorn Coyle
“True listening is never self-effacement. We bring the whole self to the process, rather than denying self. When we truly listen, we aren't just waiting for someone else to decide something so we can get on with things, or so we don't have to decide for ourselves. We aren't giving away our own powers to be seen and heard. When we listen, first we listen to the parts of ourselves that are curious, in avoidance, afraid, angry, or proud. Then we can take a breath and sink, allowing those parts some space alongside the spaciousness of not knowing.”
About This Quote
Source Book: "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida, 1997
True listening involves bringing one's whole self, acknowledging inner emotions, and allowing space for uncertainty.
In simple terms: Listen with full self-awareness.
Key Takeaway
Embrace all inner feelings while listening.
Themes
self-awareness
empathy
mindfulness
Mood
calm
introspective
Type
psychological
spiritual
When to use this quote
- counseling
- conflict resolution
- personal growth
- team meetings
Key Concepts
inner dialogue
psychological integration
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you notice your inner reactions while listening?
- What practices help you stay open?
A Different Perspective
It can be hard to stay present without judgment.
