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“Make her qualify herself a few times before escalating to a first date. Doing this will imply to her that you are man who has options. One way to do this is to briefly mention a personality trait that you admire in others and then suggest that perhaps she has that personality trait. If she…” quote by Strategic Lothario
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““Make her qualify herself a few times before escalating to a first date. Doing this will imply to her that you are man who has options. One way to do this is to briefly mention a personality trait that you admire in others and then suggest that perhaps she has that personality trait. If she responds by confirming what you suggest, she is essentially validating herself to gain your approval. Only after she does this a few times should you consider asking her to meet you in person. Here is one way to make her qualify herself to you. “I’m a big fan of people who take care of their health and yet also enjoy the little things in life. You mention in your profile that you eat healthy. I think that’s great. Do you allow yourself to indulge in a little bit of ice cream or chocolate every now and then?” Pass the sneaky tests women will throw at you in their messages by straddling the line between alpha and beta. If women find some incongruence between your profile content, photographs, and messages, they will try to expose the cause of that discrepancy. For example, if your profile content and messages to a woman indicate that you are a man who is successful with women, but you are 5’8” tall, bald, and far from handsome, she will want to make sure that you really a high-value man. So, she might mention a recent bad date, a strange email message, or some other communication that she received from a low-value guy and ask you what your thoughts are on that issue. If you talk negatively about the low-value guy, she will convince herself that you could not possibly be a high-value man. After all, high-status men do not make fun of those who stand lower in the social hierarchy. If you empathize with the low-value guy by explaining his actions, she will think that you must be a low-value guy yourself. How else could you feel this guy’s pain? The best””

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About This Quote

Source Advice column: Online dating strategies, 2023

Use subtle compliments and shared values to gauge interest before meeting, balancing confidence with humility.

In simple terms: Test interest with compliments before asking a date.

Key Takeaway

Build rapport and assess compatibility gradually.

Themes

dating communication confidence humility assessment

Mood

cautious strategic

Type

advice relationship

When to use this quote

  • online dating
  • first messages
  • profile alignment
  • confidence building

Key Concepts

social dynamics psychology self-presentation

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you be genuine while still assessing interest?
  • What signals indicate genuine compatibility?
A Different Perspective

Overemphasis on testing can feel manipulative and reduce authenticity.

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