Goals Quote by Robert I. Sutton
““two tests that I use for spotting whether a person is acting like an asshole: • Test One: After talking to the alleged asshole, does the “target” feel oppressed, humiliated, de-energized, or belittled by the person? In particular, does the target feel worse about him or herself? • Test Two: Does the alleged asshole aim his or her venom at people who are less powerful rather than at those people who are more powerful?””
About This Quote
Source Book: The No Asshole Rule, Robert I. Sutton, 2007
A person behaves like an asshole when they leave others feeling diminished and target their power against the weak.
In simple terms: Asshole behavior hurts and targets the vulnerable.
Key Takeaway
Watch for power abuse and emotional harm.
Themes
respect
power dynamics
emotional safety
Mood
critical
reflective
Type
ethical
observational
When to use this quote
- workplace meetings
- team leadership
- customer service
- online forums
Key Concepts
psychology
social hierarchy
bullying
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you notice when you diminish others?
- How can you use power to uplift the vulnerable?
A Different Perspective
People may unintentionally cause harm despite good intentions.
