Falling in love Quote by Robert A. Johnson
““Though no one notices at the time, in-loveness obliterates the humanity of the beloved. One does a curious kind of insult to another by falling in love with him, for we are really looking at our own projection of God, not at the other person. If two people are in love, they tread on star dust for a time and live happily ever after—that is so long as this experience of divinity has obliterated time for them. Only when they come down to earth do they have to look at each other realistically and only then does the possibility of mature love exist. If one person is in love and the other not, the cooler one is likely to say, "We would have something better between us if you would look at me rather than at your image of me.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Inner Work, 1990
Love often reflects personal projections of the divine, obscuring the other’s true self; mature love emerges when illusion fades and reality is faced.
In simple terms: Love reflects our own ideas of God, not the other person.
Key Takeaway
See love beyond projections.
Themes
love
projection
divinity
reality
maturity
Mood
introspective
thoughtful
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- romantic relationships
- self‑reflection
- therapy
- spiritual practice
Key Concepts
psychology
spirituality
relationships
Questions to Reflect On
- What does it mean to love someone for who they are?
- How can you recognize and release your projections?
A Different Perspective
Projection can cause disappointment when reality appears.
