Be good Quote by Richard Paul Evans
“We humans are born egocentric. The sky thunders and children believe that God is mad at them for something they've done - parents divorce and children believe it's their fault for not being good enough. Growing up means putting aside our egocentricity for truth. Still, some people cling to this childish mind-set. As painful as their self-flagellation may be, they'd rather believe their crises are their fault so they can believe they have control. In doing so they make fools and false gods of themselves.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Beginning of Everything, Richard Paul Evans, 2010
People often blame themselves for misfortunes, mistaking self‑blame for control, which can lead to self‑punishment and false authority over life.
In simple terms: Self‑blame can feel like control but creates false gods.
Key Takeaway
Recognize external factors and practice self‑compassion.
Themes
self‑blame
control
self‑compassion
Mood
reflective
empathetic
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- family conflict
- divorce
- personal crisis
- mental health counseling
Key Concepts
psychology
responsibility
ego
faith
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you differentiate personal responsibility from external circumstances?
- What practices help shift from self‑punishment to constructive action?
A Different Perspective
Self‑blame can ignore systemic issues and hinder growth.
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