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Coming of age Quote by Rebecca Solnit

“Some secret of nurture withered a generation or two before I arrived, if it had ever existed before among the poor, marginalized people on the edges of Europe from whom I descend. Both my parents grew up with a deep sense of poverty that was mostly emotional but that they imagined as material long…” quote by Rebecca Solnit
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““Some secret of nurture withered a generation or two before I arrived, if it had ever existed before among the poor, marginalized people on the edges of Europe from whom I descend. Both my parents grew up with a deep sense of poverty that was mostly emotional but that they imagined as material long after they clambered into the middle class, and so they were more like a pair of rivalrous older siblings than parents who see their children as extensions of themselves and their hopes. They were stuck in separateness. I didn't realize anything was odd until I was already on my own and found out that not everyone's parents cut them off financially as soon as the law allowed. I tried to leave home unsuccessfully at fourteen and fifteen and sixteen and did so successfully at seventeen, heading off to another country, as far away as I could go, and once I got there I realized I was more on my own than I had anticipated: I was henceforth entirely repsonsible for myself and thus began a few years of poverty.””

Rebecca Solnit

About This Quote

Source Essay: “The Mother of All Questions” in *The Mother of All Questions*, 2016

The narrator describes inherited emotional poverty and the struggle to become independent, highlighting how family dynamics and socioeconomic background shape personal responsibility.

In simple terms: Growing up with emotional poverty, the author learns self‑reliance after leaving home.

Key Takeaway

Embrace self‑reliance despite familial constraints.

Themes

family dynamics poverty independence identity social class

Mood

reflective determined hopeful

Type

personal narrative social commentary memoir

When to use this quote

  • leaving home
  • seeking education abroad
  • building a career
  • navigating financial independence

Key Concepts

emotional inheritance class mobility psychological resilience

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does emotional poverty affect adult relationships?
  • What structures can support youth leaving restrictive homes?
A Different Perspective

The narrative may overlook systemic barriers that limit true autonomy for many.

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