Fall in love Quote by Patricia Marx
““If only, I thought, I could talk to Eugene just one more time. This was before I came to understand that you cannot make someone fall in love with you But here's what you can do. By arguing and pleading and screaming and crying and throwing plates and phoning a lot and bringing hot food and sending flowers and buying gifts and doing unsolicited favors and remembering a birthday and being nice and declaring your abiding love and trying hard or sometimes merely by being present, you can make someone who was hitherto lukewarm really detest you.””
About This Quote
Source Essay: The New Yorker, 2015
She humorously outlines how excessive effort to win love can backfire, turning affection into aversion.
In simple terms: Over‑trying can make people dislike you.
Key Takeaway
Avoid over‑doing affection; keep it balanced.
Themes
love
relationships
effort
boundaries
humor
Mood
cynical
witty
satirical
Type
relationship
advice
When to use this quote
- Dating
- friendship
- courtship
- gift‑giving
- communication
- personal boundaries
Key Concepts
Attachment theory
social reciprocity
emotional labor
Questions to Reflect On
- When does persistence become pressure?
- How can you show love without overwhelming?
A Different Perspective
The advice ignores that genuine effort can be valued when sincere.
