Feelings Quote by Patricia C. Wrede
“It took us most of the morning to put together the letter she sent to the Frontier Management Department, and I learned a lot about how to be frigidly polite and still leave somebody feeling like they'd been spanked.”
About This Quote
Source Novel: Frontier Magic by Patricia C. Wrede, 1995
Politeness can be used as a weapon, delivering harsh messages while maintaining a calm demeanor.
In simple terms: Being coldly polite can still hurt.
Key Takeaway
Use calm tone to convey tough feedback.
Themes
communication
power dynamics
etiquette
Mood
strategic
critical
Type
advice
observational
When to use this quote
- workplace feedback
- negotiations
- customer service
Key Concepts
social psychology
assertiveness
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you balance firmness with genuine respect?
- When does polite aggression become harmful?
A Different Perspective
Politeness may be perceived as insincere or manipulative.
![“I reached out to [Brett Favre] early on; sent him some of my books and a letter. Then I had two or three arranged times with him, and was blown off. Then I sent him another letter, and he sent me a text, explaining that he didn't wish to talk. I'm not mad - it's his right, obviously. Plus, his…” quote by Jeff Pearlman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/98b/jeff-pearlman-33038_book_i-reached-out-to-brett-favre-early-on-se_1606400.jpg)
