Accounts Quote by Oscar Wilde
“We think that we are generous because we credit our neighbor with those virtues that are likely to benefit ourselves. We praise the banker that we may overdraw our account, and find good qualities in the highwayman in the hope that he may spare our pockets.”
About This Quote
Source Essay: The Soul of Man under Socialism, Oscar Wilde, 1891
People tend to attribute positive traits to others when they expect personal benefit, using praise as a self‑serving strategy.
In simple terms: We praise others to gain personal advantage.
Key Takeaway
Recognize self‑interest in compliments.
Themes
self‑interest
social perception
morality
Mood
cautious
reflective
Type
observational
critical
When to use this quote
- networking
- business negotiations
- political alliances
- personal relationships
Key Concepts
reciprocity
projection
egoism
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you praise others for genuine respect or personal gain?
- How does this bias affect your judgments?
A Different Perspective
Compliments may be insincere, undermining trust.
