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Broken hearts Quote by Nicole Krauss

“When you are young, you think it's going to be solved by love. But it never is. Being close -- as close as you can get -- to another person only makes clear that impassable distance between you." […] "I don't know. If being in love only made people more lonely, why would everyone want it so much?"…” quote by Nicole Krauss
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““When you are young, you think it's going to be solved by love. But it never is. Being close -- as close as you can get -- to another person only makes clear that impassable distance between you." […] "I don't know. If being in love only made people more lonely, why would everyone want it so much?" "Because of the illusion. You fall in love, it's intoxicating, and for a little while you feel like you've actually become one with the other person. Merged souls, and so on. You thing you'll never be lonely again. Only it doesn't last and soon you realize you can only get so close, and you end up brutally disappointed, more alone that ever, because the illusion - the hope you'd held on to all those years - has been shattered." […] "But see, the incredible thing about people is that we forget." Ray continued. "Time passes and somehow the hope creeps back and sooner or later someone else comes along and we think this is the one. And the whole thing starts all over again. We go through our lives like that, and either we just accept the lesser relationship - it may not be total understanding, but it's pretty good - or we keep trying for that perfect union, trying and failing, leaving behind us a trail of broken hearts, our own included. In the end, we die as alone as we were born, having struggled to understand others, to make ourselves understood, but having failed in what we once imagined was possible.””

Nicole Krauss

About This Quote

Source Novel: The History of Love by Nicole Krauss, 2005

Love promises unity but often reveals deeper loneliness; repeated attempts at perfect connection leave us with broken hopes and solitary endings.

In simple terms: Love feels like unity but often ends in loneliness.

Key Takeaway

Accept imperfect bonds, seek self‑understanding.

Themes

love loneliness hope disillusionment human connection

Mood

melancholic reflective hopeful

Type

philosophical literary emotional

When to use this quote

  • romantic relationships
  • friendships
  • family dynamics
  • personal growth
  • grieving loss

Key Concepts

existentialism psychology attachment theory

Questions to Reflect On

  • Do you chase ideal love or value realistic intimacy?
  • How can you find fulfillment without relying on another?
A Different Perspective

Illusion of perfect love can cause repeated disappointment and emotional fatigue.

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