Accounts Quote by Nicolas Chamfort
“Every woman in choosing a lover takes more account of the way in which other women regard the man than of her own.”
About This Quote
Source Essay: Maxims of the Courtier, 1765
People often judge a partner based on how others view him, prioritizing social perception over personal preference.
In simple terms: We value others' opinions about a lover more than our own feelings.
Key Takeaway
Consider your own preferences first.
Themes
social influence
romantic choice
self‑esteem
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
Type
advice
observational
When to use this quote
- dating
- marriage decisions
- friend group dynamics
Key Concepts
conformity
peer perception
status seeking
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you choose partners to impress others?
- How does peer opinion shape your romantic decisions?
A Different Perspective
Relying on others' views can lead to inauthentic relationships.
