Center of the universe Quote by Nancy Van Dyken
““This narrative is the basis for the everyday narcissism that almost everyone shares. Why is this a form of narcissism? Because, as a result of the lifelong training I’ve just described, almost all of us live by the following unconscious (and false) principles: •I am responsible for how other people feel and behave. Therefore, I experience myself as all-powerful. •I am responsible for how others act toward me. Therefore, I once again experience myself as all-powerful. •Other people are responsible for how I feel and behave—and are supposed to make me feel safe, happy, and okay. Therefore, I am the center of the universe.””
About This Quote
Source Article: Psychological essay, “The Narcissistic Narrative,” 2019
She argues that believing we control others’ feelings gives a false sense of omnipotence, fostering narcissism.
In simple terms: Thinking we control others makes us narcissistic.
Key Takeaway
Question the belief that we dictate others’ emotions.
Themes
psychology
narcissism
self-perception
control
unconscious bias
Mood
analytical
thoughtful
critical
Type
explanatory
philosophical
When to use this quote
- therapy sessions
- personal relationships
- workplace dynamics
- self-help books
- online forums
Key Concepts
cognitive distortion
emotional responsibility
ego
social conditioning
Questions to Reflect On
- How does this belief affect relationships?
- What strategies reduce this false sense of control?
A Different Perspective
May oversimplify complex interpersonal dynamics.
