Athlete Quote by Michael Sandel
“If parents are aiming at choosing children who will be good athletes, or great musicians, or who will get into Ivy League schools, or who will be tall enough to make the basketball team, then there is a danger that the life of the child will bear the burden of that expectation; and the risk of disappointment and the cost of disappointment will be even higher than they are now, and even now they can be considerable.”
About This Quote
Parental pressure to achieve specific elite outcomes can burden children with unrealistic expectations, leading to heightened disappointment and emotional cost.
In simple terms: High expectations can harm a child’s well‑being.
Key Takeaway
Expectations must match a child’s autonomy.
Themes
parenting
ethics
education
psychology
Mood
concerned
thoughtful
Type
ethical reflection
parenting advice
When to use this quote
- college admissions counseling
- sports scouting
- family therapy
Key Concepts
instrumentalization
psychological burden
Practical Applications
- Encourage intrinsic motivation
- set flexible goals
Questions to Reflect On
- How can parents balance guidance with freedom?
- What signs indicate pressure is becoming harmful?
A Different Perspective
Some structured guidance can foster discipline and skill development.
