Abuse Quote by Mark Durie
“When someone comes under abuse or attack a characteristic response is to blame yourself, especially if you are locked into a relationship of being attacked regularly, and making apologies for your abuser. It actually affects Christians living in Islamic circumstances more, and one Palestinian Christian spoke about that problem of needing to defend Islam in order to protect yourself.”
About This Quote
Source Article: Christian Perspectives on Abuse, 2023
Victims often internalize blame and apologize to abusers, especially in oppressive contexts, perpetuating harm.
In simple terms: Blaming yourself in abuse is common and harmful.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and reject self‑blame.
Themes
abuse
self‑blame
religion
identity
power dynamics
Mood
hurt
conflicted
hopeful
Type
advice
reflective
inspirational
When to use this quote
- domestic violence support groups
- interfaith counseling
- personal therapy
- community education
Key Concepts
psychology
faith
oppression
survival strategies
Questions to Reflect On
- How does your belief system influence your response to abuse?
- What steps can you take to shift from self‑blame to self‑advocacy?
A Different Perspective
Self‑blame can be reinforced by cultural or religious narratives, making change difficult.
