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Adult life Quote by Marianne Kirby

“At some point in your adult life, you’ve probably walked into a party and felt a frisson of relief upon discovering at least one woman there who was fatter, uglier, and/or dressed more inappropriately than you. We sure have. But if you want to have any hope of making peace with your own body, you…” quote by Marianne Kirby
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““At some point in your adult life, you’ve probably walked into a party and felt a frisson of relief upon discovering at least one woman there who was fatter, uglier, and/or dressed more inappropriately than you. We sure have. But if you want to have any hope of making peace with your own body, you need to knock that shit off. We’re not even telling you to stop just because it’s nasty, petty, and beneath you to judge other women so harshly; it is, but because you’re not a saint, and neither are we. We’re telling you to stop because it’s actually in your own self-interest to stop being such a bitch. ‘Cause you know what happens when you quit saying that crap about other women? You magically stop saying it about yourself so much, too. Judging other women negatively creates a constant stream of nasty thoughts in your head. It is inevitable that you will end up applying those same standards to yourself. We think we’re building ourselves up when we do this but, really, we’re just tearing other people down to our level. And we hate to go all Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood on you, but tearing other people down isn’t really productive. It leaves you in the same place you started, which is full of loathing for your own body.””

Marianne Kirby

About This Quote

Source Essay: Unknown, possibly personal essay

Judging others harshly reflects and harms self‑esteem; stop the cycle to improve body image

In simple terms: Stop judging others to help yourself

Key Takeaway

self‑esteem;body image;compassion

Themes

Sociology psychology self‑help

Mood

advice personal narrative

Type

Adult life:0 Life:0 Thoughts in your head:0 Stop Bitch:0 Nasty Thoughts:0 Women Negatively:0 Judging Women:0 Loathing Body:0

When to use this quote

  • May oversimplify complex societal pressures

Key Concepts

body‑positive workshops self‑compassion practice media literacy training

Questions to Reflect On

  • critical
  • empathetic
A Different Perspective

How does judging others affect your self‑view?;What compassionate alternatives exist?

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