Coming home Quote by Margaret Fishback
“To be polite to everybody except the people they love most is a nervous affectation that afflicts many families ... when they come home, they take off their smiles and soft words, and sit about, spiritually in their underwear. This isn't pretty.”
About This Quote
The quote highlights how people often hide genuine emotions and intimacy behind a veneer of politeness, creating emotional distance within close relationships.
In simple terms: Politeness can mask true feelings in families.
Key Takeaway
Surface courtesy may conceal deeper disconnects.
Themes
emotional authenticity
family dynamics
social masks
intimacy barriers
communication styles
Mood
reflective
somber
introspective
Type
observation
critique
When to use this quote
- family gatherings
- homecoming after work
- dinner conversations
- conflict resolution
- parent‑child interactions
Key Concepts
politeness
love
family
emotional expression
Practical Applications
- coaching families to express emotions
- designing workshops on authentic communication
Questions to Reflect On
- How does politeness affect genuine connection?
- What steps can families take to lower emotional barriers?
